Posted on my other tumblr, but since this one is for writing, it makes sense to put it here as well:
This is in reference to “Ace-tan,” a gijinka drawn by Yamino, who identifies as demisexual.
I am not demisexual, nor am I asexual, so I cannot say that I identify with all the people that are. I’m also not in a position to properly evaluate this drawing. But with all the negative comments I’ve seen regarding the drawing, particularly this one: http://yamino.tumblr.com/post/4395065809/about-the-asexuality-gijinka-reducing-peoples
I think I can say this.
People, please. Before you jump down someone’s throat talking about how offended you are by something they drew or said, and how it’s a misinterpretation of you, or an aspect of you, and what you stand for, consider this:
Just because you identify as someone in a minority (for a lack of a better term) doesn’t mean that your experience is going to mirror the experience of EVERYONE ELSE who is in said minority. Will there be similarities? Of course there will be, which is what brings you together in the first place; your experiences are similar, and you can relate to each other on a deeper level than you could with people who are not in your aforementioned minority. But to think that you all will experience the EXACT SAME THINGS and therefore MUST feel the SAME WAY about it…that’s just silly.
Now, what actually DOES offend me about this:
First, the fact that the above commenter decided that because he/she and his/her friends were offended that it must’ve meant that ALL demisexuals were offended.
Second, the fact that when the Anon commented he/she didn’t even seem to consider the idea that maybe Yamino was demisexual herself, and simply did not share the same experiences as the aforementioned Anon and his/her friends, which is why the drawing did not resonate with him/her.
Lastly, the fact that this Anon had the audacity to comment on behalf of everyone who didn’t like the drawing. This is a personal button for me; anyone who gets so offended that they feel they have the right to speak on behalf of everyone? That takes a special kind of arrogance. And then on top of that, still remained Anonymous. If you’re so sure of yourself that you have the gall to speak on behalf of an entire group like that, why remain anonymous? Don’t you want everyone to know that YOU’RE the one that said it?
Everyone has the right to their opinion, I understand that. From an artistic perspective, I like the drawing, it’s well done, and I think Ace-tan is cute. I don’t know any demisexuals, so I’m not sure what they look like, but from what I can tell, it doesn’t seem like demisexuals are the types of people that would define themselves based solely on how they look, nor would they be confined to one gender.
I guess the point I’m trying to make is this: saying that the drawing is “reducing people’s [demisexual’s] sexuality in a bland, pouty-lipped, hipster chick” is more offensive than the drawing could be, because by saying that, the Anon has essentially reduced and simplified someone’s entire experience as a demisexual as a negative stereotype.
And that’s just insulting.